Sex chat with lads
As for The Chat, I’ve found that over time it’s become more of a Dude Decoder than Relationship Wrecker.Let me explain: Every guy reacts differently to the No Sex bomb.The Chat was never really an issue for me until three years ago.I wasn’t like many teens, who consider sex a rite of passage.One guy confessed to having a girlfriend back home just as I started to fall for him.Another had such low self-esteem he wouldn’t make a move until just before he passed out.What’s more, I’m an obnoxiously picky person who avoids letting go of control, being vulnerable and making mistakes at all costs — a by-the-book Type-A perfectionist.The longer I go without sex, the more build-up there is: the more anxiety and curiosity, fear and desire, anticipation and uncertainty.
He awkwardly apologized, I awkwardly said it was fine, and we kept kissing, awkwardly.Basically, what was once just another bit of my identity has, over 26 years, become a defining element of who I am, whether I like it or not. (At least when it’s good.) I cannot wait to have sex someday.