When it goes from dating to a relationship
Initiating the conversation in a crowded coffee shop, or at lunch when she has to go back to work, isn’t the best idea.
Don’t panic if the response isn’t exactly what you want.
Relationships do not come equipped with a nonstop monitoring device like that.
So it is appropriate to periodically check in with your partner.
If you’re wondering where you stand with your partner, here’s how to find out.
It happens in nearly every dating relationship that lasts more than a few months: one or both partners initiate ‘The Talk’ to determine where exactly they’re at with each other.
The key word is “periodically” (think annual or semi-annual review).
Seeking constant reassurance is a sure sign of insecurity and clinginess.
And although he was sure about his own ardent feelings for Gina, he wasn’t quite sure she felt as strongly in return.
But soon she said, “I can’t say for sure what the future holds, but right now I don’t want to be with anyone else.
I don’t want to date anyone but you.” She grinned added, “Boyfriend/girlfriend, going steady, a committed couple—whatever you want to call it, count me in.” That declaration of commitment was for Greg and Gina an important milestone in their unfolding relationship.
So on one summer evening, with a picnic dinner spread out on a blanket, Greg popped the question—not the marriage question, but the all-important dating question: “Where do we stand with each other?
” Greg really got nervous when Gina looked away, gathering her thoughts and measuring her response.It’s too vague to ask, “So what’s happening with this relationship? Chances are you want to know if you’ve crossed the boundary from “going out informally” to “dating exclusively.” If you feel ready to stop dating other people, that is an appropriate time to ask if your partner is ready to do the same. Probing each other’s feelings can be intense, so be careful about when and where you talk.